Tulelake, CA— Unknown about the future
“In an intimate relationship, we calculate our every word and move, while in a close friendship, we are open and uninhibited. To put it simply, we interact as a child in friendship, expecting our friends to accept us warts and all. We act as an adult in relationships, resorting to subterfuge and half truths to attract a potential partner. That is not to say that we are not honest with a romantic partner but we do try to put our best foot forward.”
Relationships Guide: The difference between relationship and friendship.
Something happened that made me think I could have a relationship, not with the people I just met, but those I may come across in the future. That I can maybe, have the best of both worlds with a relationship and a friendship. But relationships are not in the cards for me right now, friendships yes, relationships, no.
I am working so hard on my goals I don’t want to alienate someone that I may meet that I can have a relationship with because I have put that so far out there I have no interest in a relationship because I am so set in my ways of going it alone.
Friendships that is another complete ball game and set of rules that I try and not let the two mix a friendship and a intimate relationship, as I do not want to get hurt, so I don’t allow myself to get to that point in my friendships.
However, in some cases encouragement is not enough, because other things seem to get in the way and ruin what could have been a great friendship. But life goes on, either people want your help or they don’t and you cannot force people to see it your way when they are put into positions to choose you over others already in their life. Something has to give and sometimes I am the one that has to go. But that is OK too as however short it was you hopefully left a good impression on them for that short moment you did spend time together but both of you have moved on and made the choices that was best for each of you in the long run.
Neither one has anything to be hurt over as it was a friendship and not a relationship that others may have thought it was leading too. So it is best to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move on as if it never happened in the first place. But you learn what not to do again and to be even more careful as to whom you let in and whom you don’t rather near or far. In the future to not repeat the same mistake. To learn and grow from there as we are never too old to learn from our mistakes even if they are in the present and not the past. They can still follow you and where you both learned something not to ever do again for what it was, not what it could have been. Once that door is closed there is no going back, unless a reason comes for there to be a reason to open the door in the future, but not the present as it stands now. Not now, but maybe in the future.
“Sometimes there are fights, but hopefully more often there is laughter. They’ll deal with your drama and they’ll have your back even if they think you’re an idiot for getting involved in it in the first place. It’s somebody who will ride through bullsh*t with you no matter what and be real with you on that ride. See, sometimes friendships can be very intimate; maybe even more intimate than your last relationship. Your friend had no choice but to like you for you because your relationship wasn’t started by attempting to create an intimate relationship.”
Leave your friends out of your relationships
You just move on with the ones you do have and work with them instead of those who no fault of their own, left you.
You also take time to spend on your real life by spending time with friends in real life at church. Where the prayer of the day fits the times I have been going through lately.
PRAYER OF THE DAY
O God of justice and love, you illumine our through life with words of your Son. Give us the light we need, and awaken us to the needs of others, through Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord. Amen
Psalm 70; tone 9
Be pleased, O God, to deliver me; O Lord, make haste to help me.
Let those who seek my life be put to shame and confounded; let those who take pleasure in my misfortune draw back and be disgraced.
Let those who say to me “Ala!” and gloat over me turn back because of their shame.
Let all who seek you rejoice and be glad in you; let those who love your salvation say forever, “Great is the Lord!”
But as for me, I am poor and needy; come to me quickly; O God. You are my helper and my deliverer; O Lord, do not tarry.
Written by James Garland of Tulelake News
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Tulelake, CA 96134-0772
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